09 May Codependents Anonymous: Recovery From Codependent Behavior
What is Codependents Anonymous and what does codependency even mean? The definition of codependency is the excessive psychological or emotional tie to a partner, usually one who has an addiction or another illness. Codependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share a common bond and purpose: to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement to become a member of Codependents Anonymous is the desire to have a healthy and loving relationship.
The 12 Steps of Codependents Anonymous
- We admitted we were powerless over others – that our lives had become unmanageable.
- Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Made a decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other codependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Codependents Anonymous: Am I Codependent?
The fellowship of Codependents Anonymous offers literature to help you feel comfortable and offer a free patterns list to help you recognize the behaviors of a codependent person. Some of those patterns and characteristics are:
Denial Patterns- Whether you’re trying to minimize or deny how you’re feeling or end up isolating, this may help you decide if you belong to Codependents Anonymous.
Low Self Esteem Patterns- This area pretty much sums up that you’re not taking care of yourself the way you should be doing.
Compliance Patterns- This describes that a codependent will stay in a relationship that compromises their own lives and sanity.
Control Patterns- This area describes that you need to be in control of the relationship and take care of your loved one the way you want to.
Avoidance Patterns- This area is pretty self explanatory; you avoid anything that will make you feel a way that you’re not comfortable with.
The best way to treat codependency is to first recognize the problem and get help to fix it. You can either seek treatment or therapy or attend support Groups such as CoDa (Codependents Anonymous). If you or someone you know may be codependent and needs help, our hotline is always available to you. Call now!