15 Jun Are We Enough for Social Media
Definition for Social Media: forms of electronic communication (as Web sites for social networking and microblogging) through which users create online communities to share information, ideas, personal messages, and other content (as videos).
People are becoming more and more aware around the issues social media is beginning to have on our youth. Girls see pictures of models, actresses, people all over television, on billboards, and believe that is what they are supposed to look like. No one write about the team of make up artist it takes, the famous hairstylist, clothing designers, personal trainers, and chef’s most of these people have surrounded around them on a day to day basis. Unfortunately, all we see is the finished product and with the finished product, we then look to ourselves and question why we don’t look like that.
I can say with myself, my perception and view points on beauty have drastically changed. It’s no longer just about “being skinny”. There’s contouring which I still have not come close to mastering. And that’s just one thing. We need to have bigger lips, thicker eyebrows, skinniest waste but huge rear end, big breast, clear skin, and of course what are you going to wear? With the uprising of lip injections, Botox, and any form of plastic surgery, it is as if this growing complexity is never ending. There is now something called a waste-trainer, which is supposed to ultimately squeeze your stomach together and be worn for periods of time to evidentially change the shape of your waste. No one speaks of the dangers of doing so, but we see it posted all over social media as the “new in thing.” And the “new in thing it is!” You have celebrities like the Kardashian’s advertising it as much as possible and flaunting their thinning waste.
It truly is unfortunate the impact it has on young girls, not to mention young men also. Young men now have a skewed perception and idea of what a woman’s body should look like. At the end of the day, what you see is just not realistic. So it’s a never ending cycle that will continue to spin out of control.
Now on the bright side, we have people coming out with inspirational videos showing the drastic effects make up can have and the dramatic difference it can show on a face. People are willing to be more and more vulnerable with their daily practice of what they do before they leave the house. Yet in the end, the same thing is being portrayed. That as we are, we are not enough, and therefore we need to change the way we look, to look like someone else.
There are infamous pictures all over the internet about a now 18-year-old Kylie Jenner, who is believed to have had numerous surgeries before the age of 18. Now although she has been given a lot of attention over her new found body and face, she has been severely bullied also. People made a hashtag called the Kylie Jenner Lip Challenge where they went through drastic measures to create the illusion of huge lips.
I guess I write about this because although I am knowledgeable about what I see happening on social media, I have just as susceptible to it. But what I have learned is what I can do to change that. I have directed my focus now on doing things that make me feel good about myself, and checking the motives and intentions as to why I’m doing them. I know that I am not going to the gym because I want the bodies I see on Instagram, but because it makes me feel good, energized, and like I’ve accomplished something with my day. I don’t take yoga classes because its what all the hottest celebrities are doing, I do it because it’s an hour out of the day where everything else goes out the door and I’m left with my breath and heartbeat. I wear make up because it makes me feel more confident, and I enjoy trying out different things to see the effect it will produce. The list can go on, and don’t think that I don’t scroll through my Instagram looking at the pictures of other women and what their bodies look like and wondering why I’m not making any progress like that. Or that I don’t buy the contouring kits and sit their watching YouTube videos on how to do it.
I just know that for me, when I find myself doing those things, that I must remember that the outsides are just a temporary fix for an inside hole that I am trying to fill. And with that, I know to surround myself around people who make me feel good. I help others so that I can get out of myself. I spend more time with my family so that I can feel grounded. And I do outdoor activities where make up doesn’t really mix too well. Just going to the beach and watching the waves can stop my mind even for a moment about all the craziness going on. I just know, that I can’t change what’s going on in the outside world, but I can change how I allow it to affect me and that’s the decision I make one day at a time.